From: The Advocate ~ Tom Hardy Did Make Gay Sex Comments
From: Dan Savage Slog ~ SL Letter of the Day: Bi Enough
Is Tom Hardy gay or more likely Bi just because he admitted to having sex with another man? No, in fact when you take what he said and then read the letter to Dan Savage I think it points out the big difference between how a guy looks at sex and how a woman does.
Tom Hardy looks at his experience as just a sex act.
As a boy? Of course I have. I’m an actor for *beep*’s sake. I’m an artist. I’ve played with everything and everyone. But I’m not into men sexually.
The woman in the letter is wondering about emotional attachment after the sex.
our various sexual quirks seemed to make us a good match. He is, without a doubt, the most tender, giving and least demanding sexual partner I’ve had. By the end of the trip, it was getting increasingly clear that he had fallen for me pretty hard, and I was also less sure of my own feelings.
That seems to me to be an incredibly different point of view. Which is why I look at claims of Male Bisexuality differently than Female Bisexuality.
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Emilie wrote,
Experimenting as a teenaged boy or hooking up with a guy when you’re in your twenties and just want to have sex does not mean a man is gay. The numbers would be way over that famous ten percent if that was the case. I believe there are guys who are basically straight, but become very open-minded about the gender of a sex partner when they’re horny. (Well, actually I believe that many guys become pretty open-minded about sex partners when they’re horny.)
I think the actor is pretty clear in saying that he experimented and messed around, but isn’t into men. I take it as him just being honest — and open-minded. :)
Link | August 4th, 2010 at 11:32 am
TeddyPig wrote,
Well I agree but I have to point out the woman is claiming the sex was great and worrying about what that means also.
My point was the woman was immediately worried about the emotional ramifications while the guy simply mentioned the act. Which I think is THE BIG difference between men and women in regards to sexuality.
Link | August 4th, 2010 at 11:48 am
Emilie wrote,
This is like that last time we discussed women’s sexual fluidity on here. I remember that Kirsten Saell had much to say. I thought she made some good points. It seemed like the woman who wrote the letter to Dan Savage had a quite definite sexual preference, but was enjoying having sex with her male friend. She was thinking about how he felt about it. It didn’t seem like she was able to get romantically emotionally involved with a man, for various reasons.
Pat Califia had some interesting things to say about some lesbians having sex with men. Pat was hated in certain circles for, among other things, discussing that dirty little secret. The letter-writer thought that her friend was getting seriously emotionally involved with her, and was examining her own feelings. Women do tend to do that. She also said she couldn’t talk about it with her lesbian friends, and there’s where it got political. Men are generally so much less political in that particular way.
I’ll do a rambling post on my LiveJournal expanding on my opinions.
Link | August 4th, 2010 at 12:56 pm