It seems like — or you tell me — that there is a tension between some transgender activists and drag queens, that they don’t really feel that drag has a place or see it as mocking and believe that it offends them. And I’m curious about your thoughts about that.
It’s the same. Everybody’s offended by something. And it really goes back to the ego — egoic mind and the ego-based world that we live in, where everybody is, their identify is everything. And this is what drag is about — you are not who you think are, you’re born naked, and the rest is drag. It’s all a facade — you’re much more than what you think you are. So this idea of people feeling they’re not being represented — I remember on [the '70s sitcom] “Good Times,” when black activists got upset with the fact that J.J., the lead character, didn’t represent what young black men in our culture — in fact the two leads of the TV show quit the show because they felt J.J., the Jimmy Walker character, didn’t represent. Well, the truth is, kids, this is a sitcom, this is a comedy — sitcom. If you want representation, you do it yourself. It starts on a personal level. If you want to change the world, change your mind. Your mind. Not anyone else’s mind. Your mind.
It’s something that a lot of activists feel though is used against them in a negative way. But, I mean, lesbians, a lot of them call themselves dyke too, right? So, you can call yourself these words.
Right, because they’ve earned the right to do it. And in the ACT UP age we called ourselves queers because we earned the right, we took the word back. But in reality, once you go even deeper, you know, you have to come from intent. And black folks call themselves the n-word all the time. It’s because the intent is coming from a place of love. If the intent is coming from a place of hatred, that’s different. But you can’t legislate intent. You can’t — there’s no way to do it. So, the truth is, you have to fix that individually on a one by one basis. If somebody calls you a green martian, would you be offended by it? No, you wouldn’t be. Why? Because you know you’re not a green martian. But if you’re offended by someone calling you a “tranny,” it was only because you believe you are a “tranny!” [laughter.] So then, the solution is: Change your mind about yourself being a “tranny.”
I personally think running around censoring other people’s language is political laziness in the extreme.
You are not dealing with the real “issue” or the real “disease”… (As RuPaul clearly stated the question is always “What do you think of yourself?” not “What do others think of you?” What you consider a bad word reflects how you feel about yourself.) So attacking people for their words and not their actions or intent is simply creating some temporary personal drama while acting like you are doing something “real” or “effective” while only treating yet one more symptom of the fucked up system. The problem is you hurting yourself missy not the offending words hurting you. You can not legislate people beating themselves up over their own self hate simply because someone somewhere said or wrote a term they found personally offensive. Get over yourself.
Larry Kramer wrote a classic gay lit book titled Faggots and only a complete loser would accuse him of supporting gay bashing. But, unfortunately the world is jam packed with all those losers just so gosh dang proud of their idiocy that they feel they have to tell us about it all the time.
It’s not surprising though the internet is nothing if not the home of fake legal advice for the terminally stupid and self righteous “armchair activists” who would never think to spend any amount of actual effort going outside in the “real world” and trying to make things better in their own community. Which is sorta why the Republican Presidential race is what it is and the Democrats are gonna try to again sell us all “the failure of compromising with the insane rich white bigots” that is Obama’s whole gig.
Follow up…
In response to this type of extremely useless misinformation…
The Transadvocate ~ Rupaul: Fuck You, You Silly Faggot!
RuPaul is and always will be a highly intelligent representative of the “Transgender Community” in my opinion and probably has a right to say whatever she wants to damn well say you fucktards.
GLAAD’s very own definition of Transgender…
People who do not even look up the definition of Transgender before proclaiming someone is not part of that definition probably needs to shut the fuck up and stop blogging an obvious lie like that. I mean I get that there is a growing schism between the rest of the Transgender crowd and the Transsexual crowd and that hate and denial is becoming ever more apparent with the obvious nasty comments about “Drag Queens” and “Gay Men” blah blah blah. I even saw someone go on about his being black makes him somehow not a Transgender… whatever, I won’t touch that one.
Posting a cut and dry statement like “RuPaul is JUST a Drag Queen” or “RuPaul is NOT Transgender, NOT one of us” while using various other insults when it’s pretty damn easy to figure out who does not know shit about what they are talking about shows the level of maturity and emotional stability of the people making all the demands.
This is sorta like when I first came out I used to go to this Gay Teen group at the local San Jose Gay Community Center. NAMBLA used to meet there on the following night. You learn pretty quickly that despite the rainbows and talk of unity in our little community there tends to be more than a few predatory nut jobs in the dark corners.
I’m going to support the type of people who supported me and those I cared about through the entire AIDS Crisis and before that the early Gay Rights Movement. The Drag Queens in my opinion deserve nothing but respect for putting themselves out there publicly at the head of the line to be beaten and made fun of time and again only to do good work both politically with bringing awareness and socially for everyone’s causes in our community and RuPaul has been charging in there pumps, wigs, and all, the whole time. Sure it’s entertainment, but it’s entertainment by a smart fucking bitch.
I do not see the people accusing, ridiculing, and name calling RuPaul doing anything even remotely comparable or constructive so too bad for them. They lose no question in my mind on this. It’s kinda like me in a temper tantrum deciding one day to change the definition of Gay so we could all exclude Andrew Sullivan from being a Gay Man.
The definitions were made back when we wanted everyone to feel they were part of our community. When we all espoused the whole inclusivity of what we were doing being the opposite of those who rejected us. It’s too bad that the label whores seem to be all about finding ways to exclude those folks they disagree with so basically we have stooped to the level of our own oppressors.
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K. Z. Snow wrote,
This is one of the biggest doses of pure common sense I’ve seen on the Internet in a long time.
Hell, I’m still wondering who, exactly, determines which terms are acceptable and which aren’t. Is there an International PC Committee somewhere? And how come they’re always telling us WHAT to say but failing to explain WHY? Why is this-and-such the correct mot du jour and that-and-such, which used to be acceptable, now heinous? Is it the same committee that decided a Q wasn’t good enough to designate “queer” and we now must use a whole chorus line of Qs as well as asterisks? What next? L followed by hashtags? B followed by percentage signs?
Anyway, I love RuPaul. Always have, always will.
Link | January 18th, 2012 at 3:52 pm
TeddyPig wrote,
You want to see the current internal spazzing out going on the gay forums?
They keep repeating RuPaul is not Trans so has no right to say blah blah blah…
Here is GLAADs very own definition of the term Transgender…
Transgender An umbrella term (adj.) for people whose gender identity and/or gender expression differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. The term may include but is not limited to: transsexuals, cross-dressers and other gender-variant people. Transgender people may identify as female-to-male (FTM) or male-to-female (MTF). Use the descriptive term (transgender, transsexual, cross-dresser, FTM or MTF) preferred by the individual. Transgender people may or may not decide to alter their bodies hormonally and/or surgically.
http://www.glaad.org/reference/transgender
It’s pretty plain RuPaul as a professional Drag Queen which falls under “Gender Expression” is a representative of the Trans community and has been for a very long time. There are some pissed off blow hards out there on the web tonight.
Watch the idiots try to quietly redefine the term now. Must exclude RuPaul for calling them a bunch of self hating whiners!
Link | January 18th, 2012 at 7:26 pm
Wahoo Suze wrote,
I concur totally. My roommate’s 10-year-old son came home from school one day very upset because a good friend of his had been called “developmentally challenged”. Yep, you can’t call people retarded anymore, because it’s mean, so you have to use a new term. But everybody knows what it means, and it’s still going to be used as an insult by assholes who want to hurt people.
I get really, really tired of people expecting me to monitor my vocabulary so as not to offend them, and they get offended over every damn thing out there. Somebody once gave me hell for using the word “snot”. She’d had a bad experience with the term, so it’s apparently everyone else’s responsibility to never expose her to this heinous word ever again. For fucks sake.
Link | January 18th, 2012 at 7:52 pm
Dan Savage Glitter-Bombed… Queerty Explodes | The Naughty Bits wrote,
[...] we WANK yet again. First RuPaul gets major hate for being a GAY MAN doing drag on Logo and saying tranny even though gu… and now Dan Savage gets glitter bombed a third fucking time for being a GAY MAN who says faggot [...]
Link | January 28th, 2012 at 5:24 am