Heidi Cullinan ~ Nowhere Ranch
From: Loose Id

RWA Shouldn’t Be in the Business of Discrimination

From: Fuck Yeah Dudes Kissing NSFW!

Madonna ~ MDNA

Give me a reason why
Give me all you got
Maybe you’ll do fine
As long as you don’t lie to me
And pretend to be what you’re not
Madonna ~ Give Me All Your Love

The Politics Of Dancing: The Old Straight-To-Gay Male Character Story Arc
Bisexuality: Pride & Prejudice ~ The Difference Between Identity & Sex

I keep saying over and over again sexual preferences are not a form of prejudice. You cannot politicize something that is innate and unchangeable about a person.

You can fetishize certain aspects of it. The transitional state of virginity or the personal realization of being gay as in the case of many gay romances. You can focus on the clothing or the hair or the makeup but that’s all image only. You can even focus on the socially stigmatized gender roles if you want but that’s a trap that will get you right in trouble with the feminists.

It’s like trying to tell me Buck Angel is sexy. No he’s not, he’s a curiosity! I don’t find him even remotely sexy. He might be a nice guy and all that but that was not the question. In my eyes sexually he is fake. Just as fake as any other steroid pumping porn star which does not make him unique. God I miss the seventies. It’s like pointing to some of those guys in the Mr. Universe contests and saying “oh they are all so sexy”. They are just pumping steroids and over sculpting their body parts and shaving it all down it does not tend to look natural to me. It’s not healthy as history has proven out and it’s not all that good looking either.

I am not totally about natural beauty and all that but unlike RuPaul who says “everything is a form of drag” I think deep down we can tell “the real”. The honest real experiences and skills gained from actually doing something or getting training for doing something from the unreal or fake and clueless.

You can get a buzz cut and go running around a military base acting like you are a soldier but the ones that share the actual experience of being a soldier of earning that experience and spending years training for it will find you out. Because all you are doing is an act and as always the truth will win out and the act itself is an act of fraud.

So what? Crystal Warren had sex with 1000s of straight guys. Did she change their mind by being honest with them or did she commit fraud and get one over on them? Is this act simply for shock value or is she really that mean? She obviously is aware the truth would be seen as negative. At least she assumes that is the case maybe some of those guys figured it out and enjoyed it.

How many of those guys did she miss a chance at a good honest relationship with?

This is nothing new some trans-man made a big deal about getting into the gay male only Inferno BDSM event. It got published about in one of the gay papers and there was a huge deal made about Inferno being transphobic.

No, Inferno is a sexual BDSM event where men come to share their sexual preference for other hyper-masculine men. It was never a political event and never claimed to represent the entire BDSM community. It is a sexually focused event held by men for men by a private BDSM club. You don’t see lesbians protesting it because they have made the effort and created their own events. Gays and lesbians understand our sexual preferences are different in regards to such events as this.

Not to mention BDSM is about trust and seems to me not being honest about who you are is a betrayal of that trust. So oops, message lost at least for anyone actually part of the BDSM scene.

We cannot change our sexual preferences be it for red heads or muscles or thin and clean shaven. To demand change like that is unreasonable and silly and goes against everything the gay community has been about since we began. We are what we are. Born this way and all that you know. Sexual preference is hardwired. Face it, plastic parts are just not gonna cut it for many folks and going into debt to your plastic surgeon is not a good thing no matter how you slice it.

Making it political and ranting at people for imagined prejudice and cis this and cis that for not buying into your particular kink or buying into your personal sexual transformation is not going to get you anywhere. I am politically all about tolerance and people having the right to live as they please and be treated equally fair is fair but that has nothing to do with my sexual preference which is defined and narrow in scope and there is nothing you or I can do about it. You have no right to tell me I am “cis wrong” for “cis anything”. Depending on redefining everyone else as “the cis problem” to make you feel better about your self identity issues is a crock of shit.

Madonna selling BDSM to the masses did not suddenly make things better BDSM acceptance wise in my opinion. It was publicity sure but it also brought in more gawkers to the scene. That’s what we needed… more tourists! Hell, sex with a trans-woman or a drag queen is pretty much a straight male sexual kink anyway so at least they have the right audience in this article’s case despite the message and how it is being negatively presented by all parties involved.

In my opinion Crystal Warren sounds like a sad person looking for attention with some serious issues. I believe in coming out before people get hurt (Honesty is always the best policy with those you love.) but also not putting yourself in danger (I was in the military I lied in order to serve in it.) and being at least honest with your sex partners at a bare minimum (Having HIV makes that a huge issue for me.) and all that which is not what she is about. You know, the hard decisions that you have to make to be a better person in our world.

Another source tells me that the company’s trade-paperback line is in trouble and that “it is doubtful it will continue.” Other sources close to the situation tell me it is their opinion that the owners “are looking to liquidate as much as they can, getting as much cash as they can” before filing bankruptcy, including, presumably, rights to books which they do not legally own and have still not reverted back to the individual authors and rightful copyright holders. Indeed, a quick check of Amazon tonight shows Dorchester is still selling Kindle editions of books they no longer own the rights to, due to contract violations and non-payment. In most cases, these rights have clearly been disputed by the lawful copyright holders, but no reversion letters or suppression orders have been forthcoming.

Damn! EREC beat me to it

Paul Freeman ~ Heroics

The study, published in Psychological Science, showed that people who score low on I.Q. tests in childhood are more likely to develop prejudiced beliefs and socially conservative politics in adulthood.

Queer activists have historically used glitter-bombing as a tactic against conservative politicians and high-profile anti-gay bigots, Vancouver protester Lavender Menace notes. Asked if she lumps Savage in with such people, she says people have different ways of contributing to oppressive systems.

“Savage is taking on being a speaker and leader in this movement. We have to take that into account,” she adds. “He’s part of a broader [group] of gay, white, cis-gendered, able-bodied gay men focused on gay-marriage priorities. We want to say those priorities are messed up.”

Basically their message is an anti-gay marriage & anti-DADT deal. Sounds pretty white Republican social conservative to me.

So these trans activist are appropriating the Gay Glitter Bomb style of protest and using it to “proclaim their individuality” from the majority of the Gay Community whose main concerns they want to hijack because they want to use our resources currently dedicated to marriage equality for their own political gain?

As I said it’s a confused and poorly thought out plan being used to publicly attack Dan Savage for a lot of shit he himself says he never intended as hurtful in the first place and it is essentially a juvenile temper tantrum. And look at these fucking names Lavender Menace and Fister Limp Wrist? Is it showing your individuality by appropriating Gay Drag Names now?

A huge ass wank if you ask me.

“cis” is hate speech
By the way, anyone referring to natural-born women as “cis” women is indulging in anti-woman hate-speech. These whack-tivists will do anything, say anything to tear down natural-born women, to diminish us, to invade us, to destroy our safe and private spaces. Why? Because they’re eaten up with jealousy towards women in general — and outright hatred towards feminist lesbians who call them on their sexist “gender role” stereotypes. The sooner the gay and lesbian communities as a whole figure out the true agendas and intentions of these sexist heterosexual MALES parading as “women”, the sooner we can realign our loyalties and priorities. As others have pointed out before me: how would African-Americans feel about white men in black-face and afro wigs parading around, demanding to be called “black” because they “feel black”? Claiming that natural born African-Americans aren’t “real, true” African-Americans, they’re just on a continuum which includes the black-face, afro-wig wearing “blacks” who grew up white in a white family, but “always felt ‘black’ inside”? Uh-huh. Think about it people.
RoseVerbena, Seattle WA

OH SHIT! Wow! Here we go get the popcorn out!

So Alan Meltzer a well known Park Avenue music mogul dies and leaves big bucks to his driver and doorman so what does the ex-wife say…

“If he wants to give it to the bums, he can give it to the bums. He could fuck a nun. I couldn’t give a shit. He can give his money to whoever he wants. We’re divorced. The man is dead.”